Thursday, April 27, 2017

#ThankfulThursday: Frisco, TX Fundraiser: Charmed by Charity Alex + Ani Bracelets


You're invited to shop with us on Thursday, May 4, 2017 for a Charmed by Charity Soiree at the Stonebriar Centre, 2601 Preston Rd #1053, Frisco, TX! 15% of Everything purchased during this event will be donated to CCA!

Just in time to pick out something special for Mom (Mother's Day is May 14) ... or yourself ... ALEX AND ANI is hosting a charity shopping event for CCA Kids!
ALEX AND ANI creates meaningful, eco-conscious jewelry and accessories to positively empower and connect humanity. ALEX AND ANI shares a passion for the wellbeing of our planet, our communities, and our individual paths. ALEX AND ANI products are proudly designed and crafted in America and made with love...
Please join us on Thursday, May 4, from 5pm - 8pm!

Monday, April 24, 2017

How I Respond To Questions and Bullying

By Rasheera Dopson

Rasheera was born with three very rare syndromes. VATERS Syndrome, Hemifacial-microsomnia Syndrome, and Golden Har Syndrome. These syndromes caused her to be born with several facial and bodily deformities—resulting in 101 surgeries in my life. Rasheera Dopson lives in Atlanta, GA. Her mission is to empower young men and women in the areas of self-esteem and confidence.  In her spare time she enjoys blogging, watching 90s sitcoms, and volunteering in her local community. Please check out her contributions to The Mighty for more of thoughtful reflections.

When people asked me the infamous question “what happened to your ear,” my mom would always tell told me to tell them. “I was just born like this way”— a phrase that followed me throughout my school-age years.  I hated that question. Even more, I hated my response because, most of the time it didn’t work. Nothing really worked when it came to people questioning me about my facial difference. I always wanted to avoid these situations, but they just kept happening.  

When I was younger, I’d constantly get the stares, the whispers, the glances and glares from other children. Some kids would even be so bold to ask to touch my ear. Of course, I would jerk away, and say a stern “NO!”As always, I would handle the constant questioning by nonchalantly nudging it off, and saying my familiar response, “I was just born like that.” At other times, when it would really hurt, I would go home and cry in my Mom’s arms. It was hard being different as a child and having to deal with other people’s reactions to your face because you are not taught to how to deal with being teased about something out of your control.

People tend to think that once you’re an adult the teasing and bullying stops. I wish that were the case but it’s not true. Although, young kids are more open about their teasing—you know how kids are, the laughing and pointing of fingers.  Adults, on the other hand, are much more coy.  They won’t outwardly ask a question, but you can tell that their minds are turning. Wanting to ask the question “what happened” but never getting the courage to say something because they don’t want to be offensive. Adults may never ask out loud, but they do silently judge.

I’m not sure which version of these judgments is worse, the silent judgement, or the open jokes and questions. I once had a friend in college tell me that one of my classmates referred to me as “crooked face” whenever I left the room.  That hurt. It hurt to know that people were calling me names behind my back and it hurt to know my so called friend didn’t correct him. It hurt to know that people had such a limited perception of me because of the way I looked. And for a long time I embodied those words. I let the words, the stares, the judgements, the teasing of other people break me down that I began to harshly judge myself. Saying silently that I wasn’t smart enough, pretty enough, normal looking enough.

Thankfully, I came to a point where I got tired of feeling sad every time someone stared, called me a name, or judged me too quickly. I made the choice to take responsibility for my difference. I couldn’t sit and sulk around every time someone would ask a question about my ear or tease me.  This was going to happen regardless, and I couldn’t let their ignorance stop me from living my life. What I could do was control my reaction to the judgements and set mental and emotional boundaries. For example, in work settings in order to alleviate assumptions I put myself out there and I make it known to my fellow employee’s and boss that hey I’m a little different and I do have some limitations but this is what I can do and this is what I cannot do.  In social settings I surround myself with people who know me and are comfortable with me. One of the worse things that can happen is when you have a person around you who is uncomfortable with your difference.  When I’m out and hanging with friends and family I don’t have to answer questions about my face or ear. My friends and family around me know me and they don’t make concession for me or make me feel like I’m different.

 I’ve realized in my life that there will be people who will understand and embrace your difference, and then there will be those people who will never get it. However, I don’t get bent out of shape for those people who will never accept or embrace me. I’ve learned that they are not worth having in my life. I’ve learned a very important lesson in life and that is you have to surround yourself with people who see your value as a person, and not just a face.

Thursday, April 20, 2017

#ThankfulThursday: Houston-Area Fundraiser, All The Way For CCA

We are so Thankful this Thursday for our amazing members and donors. The fifth annual All The Way for CCA Golf Tournament will take place on April 28th. Registration begins at 7:00AM at Wildcat Golf Course in Houston, Texas.

Check out the Facebook page for more information and images from last year's event. Register to golf and take part in the days activities on the All the Way for CCA website. 

If you get a hole-in-one, you could win a Harley Davidson. After the round of golf, lunch will be provided, during which an awards ceremony and auction will take place to raise additional funds for CCA.

The event is sponsored by over 18 Houston-area companies. Learn more about these sponsors on the sponsor page on their website.

Many thanks to Becky White and the five other Moms and friends who have made this an exceptional fundraiser for CCA for the last five years.

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

#WonderWednesday: Thanks for Real Life Auggie Skype Calls

Thanks Ms. Walton for participating in our Choose Kind program and thanks to Olivia Sanborn for being a "Real Life Auggie" Check out the Tweet below to see how grateful Ms. Walton was for Livy's service. 

Want to have a Wonder kid call into your school after you have read the book? Contact us, here, at CCA to set up a Skype call or have a Real Life Auggie visit your school. Students can connect by having a conversation with a Wonder-kid, organizing a fundraiser for CCA in their honor, or creating and writing letters to kids receiving medical care for their facial difference. This program hopes to "widen the circle of acceptance" for all kids, but especially for those with a facial difference.