By Christine Clinton
Christine Clinton, CCA Adult, author of a memoir about living with Apert Syndrome, posts a follow up to her first blog, First Impressions.
Christine Clinton, CCA Adult, author of a memoir about living with Apert Syndrome, posts a follow up to her first blog, First Impressions.
I thought about writing a second part to the blog on first impressions, because I felt it was important to explain my own feelings on first impressions. I am a pretty decent judge of character, and I can usually gauge whether or not someone is a caring, compassionate, gentle, kind, loving person, or not. It usually takes me more than one time of being in their company to figure out whether or not we will be lifelong friends. Building solid friendships is important to me, and I think that is where the first impression is most important.
When I meet someone for the first time, I never know what they think of me, or how they feel about me, and that is OK. I don’t always need to know how others feel and think about me, but I can usually tell by the way they act around me. Sometimes I notice there is a certain comfort level, and sometimes I sense a bit of discomfort, too.
It is easier for me to have an idea how an adult feels about
me rather than a child. Children are innocent, and all they want is to be loved.
Adults tend to be more vocal with their feelings (at times), and so more often
than not, I either feel super comfortable with them, or not so comfortable with
them. I have come to realize that as I’m getting older, while in a sense it
matters what others feel about me and think about me is important, in reality,
it’s not important. How I feel about myself should carry a little more weight
than how others feel about me. Once a person meets me, whether it be for the
first time or the tenth time, after we go our separate ways, the ball is in
their court. If they like me and want to get to know me, that is great. But if
not, that is fine too. I am never going to force anyone to be my friend or to
like me if they really don’t want to be.
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